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it's official
As this has been officially THE SHITTEST YEAR OF OUR MARRIAGE, Bandito and I have decided to spoil the crap out of each other over the next few months. It’s not just about spending money on each other (though it is that too), it’s about spending nice time together, doing nice things together, getting ourselves feeling better about ourselves – an individuals and as a couple.
It started on Saturday. We had really great sex in the morning before we went off on our separate journeys and then met up again in the late afternoon to see the Borat film (quick critique: I laughed at highly inappropriate comments, just about wet myself when the horse fell over in the rodeo scene but otherwise was a tad bored) and then we went for dinner to one of our favourite French restaurants.
As we sat at the table, we realised we actually couldn’t remember the last time we’d been out for dinner just the two of us. That’s not good is it? So that’s something we’re going to change – we had such a nice night. We chatted nonsense to each other the whole time, made each other laugh, basically had a lovely time together. We got out into the freezing cold and even though I whinged a little bit (my jacket was highly inappropriate for the weather) we still didn’t fall out. We got home, had some more wine, played the X Box for a bit and then went to bed for a great night’s sleep.
So simple – a film and some dinner. Why am I so delighted by it? I think it’s because we didn’t argue and I’m pleased that we actually took some time out of our lives to spend it together, to spend it on each other. I got such a lift from it. I looked at him across the table and felt happy that I could confidently say I still fancied him, I still loved being in his company, I still loved him.
There were times during the summer when I don’t know if I could have ticked the boxes to those 3 things.
Still. Ups and downs and all that.
So yes. All good in the hood. I’m feeling much better about things. Who knows, I may even start updating more…..
2:02 pm - 21 November 2006
